Not sheepish, but individ-ewe-al
2011-08-18 10:24 pm (UTC)
I only wanted a relationship choice for parallelism. So I could be marked as It's complicated for every preference they'd give me a place to put it in. I had my political preference as "It's complicated" and my relationship status as "It's complicated" and I liked the whole list of them. But then I accidentally accepted the fact that I was in a relationship with a particular person when he set his relationship with me, and I didn't know acknowledging that he was setting his accurately would change my status. That really upset me. Then I got marked as "It's complicated with..." and the only way to go back to "It's complicated." was to Facebook break up with him. And it meant we couldn't both have our preferred settings at the same time. So, I had to change my preferences on other things so now my political preference is "It's complicated with Democrats". They don't consider the desires of people like me.
Although I do think it is true that what one partner wants to display may not be what the other partner wants to display, and it bothers me that I can either hide the information entirely or show who I am involved with. But I cannot hide who I am involved with without also making that decision for him. I agree that he shouldn't be able to list being involved with me without my consent, but my consent to him listing it shouldn't mean my consent to my listing it.
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