Fatherhood

In my 20s, I had a series of break-ups of quite serious relationships, because my partner wanted kids and I don't. By the third time I pretty much assumed that sooner or later all my peers would pair off in co-parenting arrangements, leaving me as the childfree odd one out. I never predicted I would find a life partner who was willing to make a commitment without the prospect of becoming a parent, and I certainly didn't predict that I would end up in a serious relationship with people who already had children when we got together.

( noodling about alloparenting and gender )

I expect if I were male I would feel qualified to have lots of opinions about parenting based on my limited experience of being adjacent to parents. As it is I'm just kind of tentatively setting out some thoughts that have been swirling in my mind since I started dating parents.