Livre d'Or

What do I want in a relationship ? It's very hard to generalise, because everyone I care about a lot, or have cared about a lot, is so much themselves, in my mind, and what draws me to them is so much specific individual things in each case.

So there are kind of vague nebulous uber-things like "cares about communicating and does so in registers that work with me", and "enough neophilia to point me at new interesting things and to respect the things I am already interested in", and "sees and has a reasonable understanding of my existing life priorities and is good with working with their existence", and "compatible notions of basic decency", and which kind of apply to anyone I am likely to be comfortable being close to, whatever the shape of the friendship/relationship interaction in question. And there are practical things like "likes nice warm temperatures" and "generally comfortable with nudity" that are things I am happy to have but can certainly work around if apt, so they hardly seem worth making a fuss about.

There are also specifics that would well complement the current realities of my life, like "strong wrists", and "competent Linux sysadmin but not obsessive tinkerer with Linux", and "enjoys dealing with officialdom and bureaucracy", which mostly feel like putting together a parody of a personal ad when I think about them to any depth.