Livre d'Or

Yeah, edges and uncertainty make it more weird. And you've put what I was trying to say really succinctly: yes, all that about the difference between identity and actual relationship, and passing and gender identity and stuff.

I didn't officially come out as bi until I actually had a girlfriend, because it felt just too awkward to say "um, by the way, I'm sometimes attracted to women", whereas telling people about my new exciting girlfriend seemed like a much more reasonable subject of conversation. But knowing out Queer people meant so much to me when I was confused in the first years of college, so in that sense I feel I should pay it forward by being public about my sexuality (since I don't take much risk in doing so). And that means telling people I am bi, even if it isn't terribly relevant at this particular moment of my life.

Also, thank you particularly for commenting, because in many ways you're my relationship role-model. I want relationships with as much kindness and consideration, and as little drama, as you seem to manage.