Livre d'Or

just generally more glamour than me

Nah, I think you're plenty glamorous as these things go; it's a gathering of fairly geeky people, not a retreat for supermodels, fashion designers and performance artists :-)

I wouldn't worry too hard about Queer credentials; it's not a one-upmanship exercise, it's about having the freedom to be who you are instead of who you're supposed to be. Yeah, I know plenty of Queer people forget that too, but it's still true...

Califia had a good quote about this; will try and dig it out if I can find it.