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This makes a lot of sense to me. I would like to live in a world where Coming Out wasn't a thing, definitely, what sort of people you fancy ought to be just one of those trivial facts about your preferences. I might well still be officially closeted if I hadn't ended up in a really life-defining same sex relationship. That meant two things: firstly that there's a big important part of my life I have to be out to talk about; I could play the pronoun game, but I just find it too complicated to keep up the level of deceit involved. Secondly, I got involved in the Queer scene, and experienced for myself how isolating it is when everybody in the world assumes you're straight, and how much it mattered to me to have out role models. So in short, if things had been just a tiny bit different I would have ended up in your situation exactly.

I never noticed you had a crush on MF, no. But then I was sooo oblivious at that time that I didn't notice when I had crushes on schoolfriends, let alone being aware of what else was going on around me.