Livre d'Or

You're so right. I am still scared of getting into relationships, and I angst about it a lot. I still react against the idea of the kind of poly where I'd end up as the hinge of a balanced V, that is, I'd have all the hard work of being in a relationship doubled, on top of dealing with the interactions between the two.

But that's not what I'm contemplating at the moment. If there's someone potentially interested in me who already has a primary relationship (or even several), while I also have such a relationship, then it feels much less as if that person's entire happiness depends on me. They're probably not going to expect me to move or otherwise put the relationship ahead of my job. They're unlikely to try to persuade me into having kids with them. I may be naive about this, I admit.