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This is a really, really helpful comment, thank you. You're entirely right that Bicon is one of the more friendly sectors of Queer space towards people who aren't overtly, politically Queer. And very, very much right that orientation isn't dependent on whom you happen to be dating at this moment, especially with the relative numbers of available people.

Thanks for talking about being Other in terms of gender. That really fits in with what I was saying about passing, though of course it applies to you in a different way from how it applies to me. Sometimes I just want to throw up my hands and wish we could treat people as individuals, without needing to pigeonhole either gender or orientation!