Livre d'Or

I do hope this stuff isn't too painful for you.
Ha, not at all, I'll happily go on about it all night given the right arena ;-)

I feel I get perceived as a woman and that counts for something //
people in the linked discussion who are arguing that non-feminine women should call themselves women in order to expand the range of options for other women
The other reason I don't have this conversation with people in normal life is that mostly the situation in which it comes up is when someone's (a) assuming I'm a woman and (b) assuming something stupid about women, and (b) seems like the more useful part of that to address (as in, more useful to society at large and also more likely to be taken in).

goodness only knows I know cis men who are more feminine than I am!
Yes, me too :-)

I want to be a person, not a gendered-person.
Exactly!