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The thing about cultures and arguing is a really helpful point for me at the moment as it has taken me a long time to work out that the Finn I married thinks arguing loudly on any topic under the sun, saying anything you like in order to win the game, is a fun way of communicating with someone you love and that everyone knows you don't mean a word of it and it is all forgotten in the morning and you are closer because of it. This is a major problem when I (British, brought up to be polite and self-sacrificing) feel flattened, bullied and shaky whenever it happens. At least we are now finally talking about it and he (astonished) is saying he had no idea and of course he will stop doing it.