Livre d'Or

I quite like the explanation of the term 'bisexuality' which states that bisexuals are attracted to people who are like them and people who are unlike them, unlike heterosexuals who are attracted to people unlike them and homosexuals who are attracted to people who are like them. 'People who are unlike me' covers quite a lot of different varieties of gender expression. All the same, I've gotten more comfortable with just saying 'queer' as an umbrella term for type of people I'm attracted to plus things I like to do plus relationship model plus slightly po-mo approach to things like gender identity etc etc.

The sapiosexuality thing is a funny one - I agree that it's pretentious but it's also oddly specific as a trait to define your attraction by. Possibly not so odd in a case where you are attracted to a small number of people and their common feature is their intelligence, but there are other people who are only attracted, eg, to people of their preferred gender(s) who are very fat or very thin or have some other physical or personality trait, and I wonder if they would describe themselves as 'adiposexual', or use the time they might have spent thinking up clever words to actually go out and pursue people they fancy instead :-) For my part, intelligence plays an important role in whether I choose to spend time with someone and develop a relationship with them, but I can still be sexually attracted to people whose most salient characteristic is not their intelligence.