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With the 'as long as it's healthy' thing, I think there's a difference between hoping that someone won't have a particular characteristic or life experience and loving them less if they have it. I don't love Alec any less because he has an chronic illness, but I think it would have been better if he didn't have it (a view which he strongly agrees with) because it causes him discomfort and inconvenience. I suppose one of the issues is that it's more acceptable to talk about hoping for health than other things. For example, based on my friends, having an aptitude for maths does seem to make your life easier career wise, but I never hear expectant parents say 'I don't care as long as calculus comes naturally to them'.