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That was about my reaction the first time I met someone I knew to be trans. I was shocked to hear that she'd undergone complex and risky medical treatment, including major surgery which had nearly killed her, and much of it self-funded since she hadn't been able to convince the NHS it was medically necessary, in order to be perceived as a woman. (It's not like she said, oh, by the way I'm trans, and I asked her intrusive questions, she was telling me anecdotes from her personal history and this was relevant.) I could, I thought, imagine being a different gender from the one people assumed when I was a child and based on my appearance. I couldn't imagine caring about it enough to want to go through all that, not to mention the prejudice and risk of violence I learned she had also faced. But several trans people have informed me that the experience of dysphoria isn't necessarily related to having a really strong sense of gender identity.

I like "gender agnostic"! I've certainly toyed with the idea of identifying as agender or neutrois, or just an individual as you say. The problem is, even with that I feel like I don't care about gender enough to spends lots of time and effort arguing with people that I'm in fact agender rather than female (or transmasculine, which has sometimes been assumed about me when I say I don't feel strongly female).