Livre d'Or

I have for sure experienced anxiety that I am not a very good girl / woman - but at least I got some approval for having sensible male interests which made up for it. And of course I have performed approved gender behaviour such as marrying a man and producing children.

I wrote about how much gender policing was hurting my son a couple of years ago: http://rmc28.dreamwidth.org/479031.html

It still is: he recently explicitly told me that there are things which he only likes "secretly" i.e. where his peers cannot pressure him for being too girly. (But not actually secret, given he had this conversation with me in a loud voice in the supermarket.)