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Thank you, that's a really high compliment! I think a lot of the things I do for you don't count as "nice" in the way I perceive to be expected of women. Like, I have no idea when your birthday is, I don't compliment your clothes or appearance, I don't do a lot of work to smooth your life practically while hiding from you the fact that it is work. If you ask for a specific thing I will do it if I can, but it's much more likely to be a practical thing like reading a draft of your paper, or troubleshooting about how to deal with problems rather than, well, validating your emotions or building up your self-esteem.

And even then, the "nice" things I do for you and other friends come relatively low in my priorities, after doing things that make me happy or promote my career and goals. So it's not that I think I'm a horrible person who never does any kind or unselfish things! It's more like, I don't really go around anticipating what might make other people's lives better, I wait for them to ask me and I reserve the right to say no if what they want doesn't fit into my life.