Livre d'Or

I think people liked to be complimented on both. Even if you are really intelligent, someone recognising that can be a big deal given this world does seem to focus on beauty. Yet if that super intelligent lady dresses themselves up for the evening, recognition of that can be wonderful too.

If you are not as intelligent, someone saying you are would be an amazing feeling but just as much so is being told you are pretty.

I think...people want both if they are honest with themselves? I am pretty, no I will stop being demure, I am very intelligent. I am also very pretty by beauty standards, at least in the face. My proportions are a bit off. My breasts are large in comparison to my body so I don't fit any molds. People think only fat people have large breasts but I am a relatively slim person with large breasts (size 12, 30/J). I only stopped at a size 12 on my weight loss plan because if my back slimmed anymore I would be a 28J and that...doesn't exist.

I guess personal experiences are good here?

Ok so, you know I have been very ill for a long time. I looked pale and gaunt and well...ill. So when I go out with no make up on and people say 'wow you look good!' I love that, because it means I look at least better, and maybe even healthy. This comes from people who don't know I'm ill.

If I put effort into an outfit and sit and do my make up it is always for me. Always. I don't care what others think, but it still nice to hear someone say I look nice after all that time poking my hair with a comb. But if they didn't say anything, I would not be bothered.

I adore when people compliment I am clever, because I always doubted it and felt a huge pressure to get good grades while being diabetic. My bio parents had great grades and the hospital wondered if I would pass any standard grades at all let alone highers because of my health. So to have done that, I take glory in compliments yes.

What I don't like is when people think I'm not clever enough. A friend's husband has an IQ high enough to have got him into MENSA so he thinks himself very superior to me despite the fact that I went to university and have proven myself not to be stupid. He has not. He dropped out yet he and his family hold his IQ over me like it makes me stupid.

Intelligence is not just an IQ. An IQ is great but so is hard work and getting a result regardless of what your IQ is. As far as I can tell from internet tests my IQ is pretty high in itself but years of this person speaking to me like I don't know anything, and always in proper English in order to undermine my Scottish-English hit me hard. Very hard. As it happens I don't talk to that person anymore, cutting myself off from physical contact with one of my best friends but I do think people can take love in one point and in other, or be destroyed by one or another.

Sorry if that last section doesn't make sense. Given the best friend thing and such I get rather emotional but I wanted to give my full view. :)