Livre d'Or

Update: interesting, I recall implicated2's post from the yuletide letter debacle, but I think I read it before she updated it, because... well, the concerns about not being able to state boundaries are *exactly* what bugged me about that debacle. I specified no smut at all (if that's the only boundary that'll be acceptabe then that's what we go with!) the yuletide immediately after, and have since withdrawn entirely and avoid all pre-yuletide discussions because I just cannot be having with this.

*I* am probably projecting but many of those posts read to me as... prude-shaming? Which is not intended (... usually), but I do not wish to be party to a fandom culture which discourages folks, especially young women, from owning their squicks as confidently as their kinks. Because out there in the real world, people *do* try to undermine and shame you for not wanting to do things, especially if you're lukewarm on them - many men are hard boundaries or nothing people, men and women both will mock the inexperienced or uncomfortable or super vanilla (recall the Sex & the City first series, how often Charlotte was the butt of jokes just for being romantic and unadventurous?).