Livre d'Or

Sometimes people spend so long being told by everyone around them to COVER UP that they find that even if everyone *stops* that uncovering is a difficult/uncomfortable thing to do.

I think saying (not that you are, but some people (m'mother) do) that "you should cover less because your covering is ostentatious and not modest at all" is just going to make such people feel SUPER BAD.

What I want is for everyone to have as much choice as possible in what they wear, so that they can be as happy and comfortable as possible, without social pressure to change.

I'm not generally happy altering my level of modesty because someone else doesn't like looking at me dressed the way I am. I rarely dress with other people's happiness in mind, and only on very special occasions. The unhappiness applies even when the clothing requested is well within my usual standards of acceptable - if I put a hat on this morning then I *want to wear a hat* and I'm not taking it off so you can "see my hair", fuck off. Neither do I "smile" on command.