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I think you are reading something that I'm not saying. Clothing is basically costume. A person can wear EXACTLY the same outfit in different colors and indicate they belong to two entirely different social groups. It's a piece of personal artistic expression, social expression, and gender presentation.

I think you are reading what I say and instead of the actual words being presented you are reading "I think women should dress more modestly" which is not, in fact, what I am saying. Clothing, in and of itself, is amoral. It has no moral value/immoral value in and of itself any more than furniture does. I could walk into my (conservative) grandmother's house in short-shorts and a tank top tomorrow (if I were in her city) with no moral judgement from my family (though going in nude would lift some eyebrows).

I am, in fact, saying that being contemplative (working to understand one's own reasons and not just accept external motivators without thinking about it) about all one's actions including clothing choice is good. You are reading a connotation into my words that isn't there.

However, here's my judgement on this point in the discussion: Using rude language and calling someone dishonest and deceptive in what appears to be an attempt to garner an unearned apology and to shut down a discussion is not acceptable in my opinion.

And here's my normative value statement: You should not go around calling people dishonest and deceptive. It's offensive and rude.