Random musings: lesbians
Jun. 7th, 2003 09:20 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
livThere were quite a few couples on the tour with us. OK, fair enough. But there were also two girls, an anglophone Canadian and a French Canadian, who I was 95% convinced were together. But they were doing the very careful not touching thing, and I felt so sad for them, surrounded by all these straight couples who were happily snuggling up together. And I really wanted to tell them, well, there's at least one person here who accepts you.
But I didn't know how to say it tactfully, without offending them if in fact they turned out not to be a couple. The fact that I was one of the people doing the blatantly het thing didn't make it easier. Does anyone have any suggestions as to the etiquette in such situations?
It's somewhat depressing that the situation should exist in the first place though. Even if I was wrong about these particular girls, it's a very likely occurence that a same sex couple, travelling with a group of strangers, would feel obliged to hide the fact that they were together.
But I didn't know how to say it tactfully, without offending them if in fact they turned out not to be a couple. The fact that I was one of the people doing the blatantly het thing didn't make it easier. Does anyone have any suggestions as to the etiquette in such situations?
It's somewhat depressing that the situation should exist in the first place though. Even if I was wrong about these particular girls, it's a very likely occurence that a same sex couple, travelling with a group of strangers, would feel obliged to hide the fact that they were together.
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Date: 2003-06-10 04:03 am (UTC)I typed a response to this yesterday, but the computer then ate it, so I'll try again.
Yes, it is sad. On the etiquette point, I would think that the best way for you personally to proceed would be to make conversation/be friendly with the possible-same-sex-couple and then drop in a reference to having had a girlfriend. Something like "as my ex-girfriend would say..." or "I went there with my then girlfriend" etc etc. And then if they want to "confide" in you, they can. There might be a better way to do it, but I can't think of one offhand.