Research question

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There's something I'm really curious about. Supposing you're in the situation of wanting a partner. How would you go about finding someone to date? Would you just hope someone comes along, or what? I particularly want to know about actual experiences: if you have ever deliberately gone looking for a partner in the past, how did you go about it, and what worked for you?

I ask because, well, I have never actively looked for a partner and I don't think I'm likely to; I prefer being single. When I have got into relationships, it's been something that "just happened" or was initiated by the other person. I can imagine what sort of steps I might take if I wanted to find someone. But I'm curious to know how this sort of thing works in reality. Also I have a few friends who are miserably single and I feel I can't give them any very useful advice, at least any that isn't entirely hypothetical.

Comments

[lethargic-man.livejournal.com]

Harrumph. Being miserably single doesn't mean being miserable all the time, nor walking around exuding desperation, that great put-off, nor indeed lacking self-confidence in the rest of their life.

Of course, sometimes it does; but I for one try to learn from my mistakes. :o)