I had a seriously awesome weekend, with good food and good company. I sat in the sunshine with ![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
jack drinking berry smoothies from some random middle eastern café. We had a great time at khalinche and ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
timeplease's housewarming, along with such wonderful people as shreena, kerrypolka and jacquic, eating barbecued veg kebabs and cake and drinking stunningly tasty Madagascan rum. We stayed over chez doseybat and enjoyed a tasty brunch including Lithuanian rye bread and plenty of tea with her and pplfichi. We ate the classiest Indian meal I've ever had at Trishna with fishpi and his partner R. We saw the Hajj exhibition at the British Museum, and then met up with hadassah and angelofthenorth for Afternoon Tea (and wedding ceremony plotting) in the amazingly swanky surroundings of the conservatory at the Chesterfield, Mayfair. It was after all that loveliness, though, that I ran into some drama.
( apparently I have Issues )
So, what do you think? Should I stand up for myself, donate the makeup to charity or a friend who'll actually use it, and get married wearing my own natural face? I'd risk quarrelling withhadassah over it, and my appearance probably would be blotchy and washed out, and the dress would look wrong without the rest of an outfit at the same level. Or should I spend the next few weeks practising and getting used to makeup, and take up the kind offer to help me get ready on the morning of the wedding, so that I'm a beautiful bride and so I'm not rejecting my friends' generosity?
A couple of things I'm not really looking for here: one is feminist solidarity and affirmations of my right not to wear makeup if I choose not. I know I have that right, and I'm deeply grateful to previous generations for all the fighting they had to do for makeup to stop being compulsory. The question is not whether I have the right not to wear makeup, but whether wearing or eschewing is actually a better idea. I do completely accept that there are some occasions when makeup is a good choice; I'd wear it without protest on stage or if I were appearing on TV, for example, and I have to admit that a highly formal occasion when I'm wearing a beautiful silk dress is a situation that definitely favours makeup over bare face in general. The other is to be assured that it's my wedding so I can do what I like. Superficially, yes, I can, but I actually don't want to. One of the aspects of wedding expectations that I kind of reject is the view that it's about being a princess for day. I actually do care about what will be comfortable and enjoyable for my friends, it's a public event, not just an excuse for me to behave like a spoiled brat.
jack drinking berry smoothies from some random middle eastern café. We had a great time at khalinche and timeplease's housewarming, along with such wonderful people as shreena, kerrypolka and jacquic, eating barbecued veg kebabs and cake and drinking stunningly tasty Madagascan rum. We stayed over chez doseybat and enjoyed a tasty brunch including Lithuanian rye bread and plenty of tea with her and pplfichi. We ate the classiest Indian meal I've ever had at Trishna with fishpi and his partner R. We saw the Hajj exhibition at the British Museum, and then met up with hadassah and angelofthenorth for Afternoon Tea (and wedding ceremony plotting) in the amazingly swanky surroundings of the conservatory at the Chesterfield, Mayfair. It was after all that loveliness, though, that I ran into some drama.( apparently I have Issues )
So, what do you think? Should I stand up for myself, donate the makeup to charity or a friend who'll actually use it, and get married wearing my own natural face? I'd risk quarrelling with
hadassah over it, and my appearance probably would be blotchy and washed out, and the dress would look wrong without the rest of an outfit at the same level. Or should I spend the next few weeks practising and getting used to makeup, and take up the kind offer to help me get ready on the morning of the wedding, so that I'm a beautiful bride and so I'm not rejecting my friends' generosity? A couple of things I'm not really looking for here: one is feminist solidarity and affirmations of my right not to wear makeup if I choose not. I know I have that right, and I'm deeply grateful to previous generations for all the fighting they had to do for makeup to stop being compulsory. The question is not whether I have the right not to wear makeup, but whether wearing or eschewing is actually a better idea. I do completely accept that there are some occasions when makeup is a good choice; I'd wear it without protest on stage or if I were appearing on TV, for example, and I have to admit that a highly formal occasion when I'm wearing a beautiful silk dress is a situation that definitely favours makeup over bare face in general. The other is to be assured that it's my wedding so I can do what I like. Superficially, yes, I can, but I actually don't want to. One of the aspects of wedding expectations that I kind of reject is the view that it's about being a princess for day. I actually do care about what will be comfortable and enjoyable for my friends, it's a public event, not just an excuse for me to behave like a spoiled brat.
