More wedding planning

[liv]

I'd really like to involve lots of our friends in the wedding, rather than inviting people to a staged show where they would be the audience. Obviously there are arguments for and against doing it this way. I am pretty sure I'm not going to turn into Bridezilla, but I'm sure everyone thinks that, and I'm open to the argument that it would put too much strain on friendships and it's better to just pay professionals to do everything.

So here comes a poll. I'm mainly just canvassing opinion at this point, so don't feel you're committing yourself to anything. Obviously we don't even know who is going to be able to come at this stage!

Poll #7430 wedding planning

Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 22

If we asked you to help out with the wedding, you would feel:

Flattered to be included
17 (77.3%)

Uncomfortable because I don't know you well enough to be part of your celebration
2 (9.1%)

Annoyed at being asked for a contribution instead of being honoured as a guest
0 (0.0%)

In principle happy, but practical considerations mean it's unlikely I'd be able to help
5 (22.7%)

Neutral but generally ok
1 (4.5%)

Specifically, would you be willing to take on a role in the ceremony eg reading, singing, witnessing, etc?

I'd love to do that
10 (50.0%)

I'd like to do that for someone I knew well, but not really for a random person from the internet
1 (5.0%)

I don't really like doing anything public facing
1 (5.0%)

I would object on principle
0 (0.0%)

It's a good idea to ask friends to be involved, but I personally am not interested
3 (15.0%)

I would be happy to do something small but not take a major role
9 (45.0%)

I would love to have an important role in the ceremony
2 (10.0%)

Would you be willing to take on a practical role during the wedding and reception, eg ushering, tech support, liaising with venue staff etc?

I'd love to do that
9 (56.2%)

I'd like to do that for someone I knew well, but not really for a random person from the internet
1 (6.2%)

I don't really like organizing jobs
4 (25.0%)

I would object on principle
0 (0.0%)

It's a good idea to ask friends for support, but I personally am not interested
3 (18.8%)

Would you be willing to provide creative input to help make the wedding lovely, eg writing a song, designing stationery etc?

I'd love to do that
7 (35.0%)

I'd like to do that for someone I knew well, but not really for a random person from the internet
1 (5.0%)

I don't have any relevant skills
6 (30.0%)

I would object on principle
0 (0.0%)

I would be honoured to make a contribution as a gift to you
12 (60.0%)

I would be willing to do it if I could be paid for materials and reasonable expenses for the time
2 (10.0%)

I would be willing to do it if you paid me commercial rates for a professional skill
0 (0.0%)

I would be happy to help but insulted if you offered me money
1 (5.0%)

It's a good idea to ask friends for input, but I personally am not interested
1 (5.0%)

I would be willing to do something small that would take only a few hours of work
9 (45.0%)

I would be willing to contribute a major project
3 (15.0%)

I haven't put any textboxes in for you to specify which parts you'd most like to do, if you do want to help out. But I think that's probably better for the comments, along with pedantry about why my poll is wrong and ambiguously phrased and I'm an insensitive clod. I should add that all your advice about ceremonies and rings and clothes and everything else has been very much appreciated so far; you are collectively wonderful already, so don't at all feel you have to do more!

Comments

[liv]

Did I say that part of the reason which led me to agree to get married rather than just make a private commitment to jack was that I wanted to commission some Jen art? Let's plot when you're here in a few weeks.

[hatam_soferet]

!!!!!!!!!

yay :)