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livI've had my hair cut.
It's about halfway down my back. Still long enough to put up, long enough to be called 'long', but there's a good 25 cm of it missing. I asked the hairdressers to cut as little as possible, but I knew that as little as possible was going to be rather a lot. The evidence of a decade of neglect is gone, and I kind of miss it, split ends and broken strands and raggedness and all. It's all the same length now, though, and neat and thick and blunt-ended.
To console myself for losing my cherished hair I had what remains of it coloured. It's come out rather better than I expected, it's sort of auburny but really not too artificial-looking. It's like an enhanced version of my natural colour, and not far off the imaginary hair colour of the idealized version of me I carry in my head. So I'm quite pleased with it.
I'm told that the way forward is to lose the centre parting I've had for more than half my life. I'm not doing too well at convincing my hair to fall any other way, but I'm working on it. So yeah, it's tending towards a fashionably careless flick-over kind of impression. I will try to get someone to take photos of me in the next couple of days so people who live far away from me can see my new image.
It took two hairdressers over three hours to get it done, and cost £80. So it's not something I'm going to make a habit of. This will probably be my image until it's completely faded and grown out, so I suppose I'd better get used to looking like this!
They said they'd never coloured hair as long as mine before. It's not really exceptional any more though, just medium long, but I have to admit it looks more professional, more grown-up, less like I'm completely indifferent to my own appearance. Which is largely true, but at least for the next few months of job interviews this fact about me will not be immediately obvious.
I've been psyching myself up for this for weeks but I am still a little thrown by it. I'm trying to focus on the 'yay, neat! yay colour!' and not so much on missing the length, but I am feeling a little down, a little deenergized. I'll get used to it, I'm sure, and of course it won't stay this in between length forever.
Today is the fifth day, with no weeks yet completed, of the Omer
It's about halfway down my back. Still long enough to put up, long enough to be called 'long', but there's a good 25 cm of it missing. I asked the hairdressers to cut as little as possible, but I knew that as little as possible was going to be rather a lot. The evidence of a decade of neglect is gone, and I kind of miss it, split ends and broken strands and raggedness and all. It's all the same length now, though, and neat and thick and blunt-ended.
To console myself for losing my cherished hair I had what remains of it coloured. It's come out rather better than I expected, it's sort of auburny but really not too artificial-looking. It's like an enhanced version of my natural colour, and not far off the imaginary hair colour of the idealized version of me I carry in my head. So I'm quite pleased with it.
I'm told that the way forward is to lose the centre parting I've had for more than half my life. I'm not doing too well at convincing my hair to fall any other way, but I'm working on it. So yeah, it's tending towards a fashionably careless flick-over kind of impression. I will try to get someone to take photos of me in the next couple of days so people who live far away from me can see my new image.
It took two hairdressers over three hours to get it done, and cost £80. So it's not something I'm going to make a habit of. This will probably be my image until it's completely faded and grown out, so I suppose I'd better get used to looking like this!
They said they'd never coloured hair as long as mine before. It's not really exceptional any more though, just medium long, but I have to admit it looks more professional, more grown-up, less like I'm completely indifferent to my own appearance. Which is largely true, but at least for the next few months of job interviews this fact about me will not be immediately obvious.
I've been psyching myself up for this for weeks but I am still a little thrown by it. I'm trying to focus on the 'yay, neat! yay colour!' and not so much on missing the length, but I am feeling a little down, a little deenergized. I'll get used to it, I'm sure, and of course it won't stay this in between length forever.
Today is the fifth day, with no weeks yet completed, of the Omer
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Date: 2005-04-29 03:19 pm (UTC)Yay haircut solidarity!
Why on earth would you want to make your pretty hair look like a shaitl, you mad creature? Yours grows super-fast anyway.
Well done!
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Date: 2005-04-29 08:51 am (UTC)Pfffft. If having a centre parting is your thing then you should stick to it (unless you want to try different things, of course, in which case go for it). My severe hair cut came when I was 20 (the change was from knee- to shoulder-length) and having to mess with a side parting each day became too much of a hassle, so I went for two bunches (yes, very schoolgirly, I know) and my good old centre parting.
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Date: 2005-04-29 03:23 pm (UTC)Well, it's not so much that it's my thing, I'm not especially attached to it. It's just that I'm used to that style, and it makes it easier to put my hair up while keeping it neat.
I don't particularly want to change my image, I quite liked it the way it was. But I think there's something to be said for looking like a 26-year-old professional woman, rather than a 16-year-old confused whether she's supposed to be a tomboy or an ultra-girlie romantic. Also, I can see the hairdresser's point that it does actually suit me better with the flickover rather than the centre parting.
Wow, that really is severe! I'm seriously impressed you went through with that.
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Date: 2005-04-29 08:54 am (UTC)I'm told that the way forward is to lose the centre parting I've had for more than half my life.
Why? I once succumbed to peer pressure to get rid of my side parting; I had my hair brushed backwards for a few years, then restored the side parting which I've otherwise had since I was in low single digits. Your centre parting suits you; why abandon it?
It took two hairdressers over three hours to get it done, and cost £80.
Eeep!
I've been psyching myself up for this for weeks but I am still a little thrown by it. I'm trying to focus on the 'yay, neat! yay colour!' and not so much on missing the length, but I am feeling a little down, a little deenergized.
<hugs>
Moooooood: shorn
You have a shorn mood??
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Date: 2005-04-29 03:29 pm (UTC)Mainly because it makes me look young, or governess-ish, neither of which is quite the first impression I want for interviews. And partly because the new style does actually suit me too, it's just a matter of training my hair to fall in the new way.
Thank you. Hugs help a lot!
Not exactly... You can have any mood you like, if you choose the picture from the drop-down menu and then type a word (such as shorn) into the text field. That mood is really depressed, which I'm not, that would be going too far, but it's the nearest I have in the available list.
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Date: 2005-04-29 09:23 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-04-29 03:32 pm (UTC)Good luck, if you decide to go through with that. It did take me a long time to talk myself into doing this, I must say.
I will aim to do so, yes. I'm planning to get my dad to take some photos of me, but the trouble is he doesn't know how to use my digital camera.
I fear I'm not going to make it to see you this week, as things are looking right now. Sorry about that. I've got disorganized and let the week disappear without making plans, really. But I shall see you when I'm back in the south-east more long term, for sure.
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Date: 2005-04-29 03:40 pm (UTC)You have a point. I did consider waiting till after Shavuot but then I decided that there's more urgent need for it to look decent now than there will be then. And I wanted to go to the Shelford hairdressers, cos I trust them to be both cheaper and more competent than a random hairdresser.
I did in fact notice it. I'm just not too bothered about the cutting hair thing. And I like your pedantry in pointing it out.
Oh, I noticed that all right. I was going to say something, cos it didn't add up with your talking about how you took kitniyot seriously and how the Masorti people agreed with you. But then I thought I must just be confused so I didn't bring it up.
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Date: 2005-04-29 02:34 pm (UTC)I can't remember when last I had mine cut, it was certainly before I came to Canada. But then, it semes to have settled at this length and is not visibly or tangibly doing any of that split-endiness.
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Date: 2005-04-29 03:53 pm (UTC)Will do my best. There are technical issues, but I do rather want a photographic record from immediately after the cut and styling, before it starts to revert to its normal uncared for state.
I think that's a bit of an over-generalization. Much as I love as long as possible hair, I think there are a lot of different styles that suit different people. And the style I currently have is IMO a good style of itself, I just prefer excessively long hair for myself. I do think many people look good with hair just below their shoulders.
I agree with you entirely! Thankfully mine isn't even close to that short; I'd have been really upset if that had been the result. It's definitely long enough to tie back, even, with a bit of care, long enough to put up.
*sigh* I don't think you're going to like it. It's pretty obvious that it's less fun to play with than it was, which is a large part of why I'm kind of down about how much I've lost. But I don't feel like I can make decisions about my hairstyle on the basis of whether my hair is nice for you to play with. That wouldn't be quite the right way to prioritize things, I think.
You're lucky then; I'm not entirely surprised, given that your hair is quite a bit finer than mine. To tell the truth I don't think my hair was all that dreadful even when I neglected it. I mean, yes, split ends were present, and it wasn't all one length, but I could certainly live with it as it was. I tended to get positive reactions about how long it was, rather than reactions of horror about what a terrible condition it was in.
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Date: 2005-04-29 04:23 pm (UTC)I think that's a bit of an over-generalization.
OK, will you let me get away with calling it an aesthetic inclination ?
Probably won't really sort out my reaction, fwiw, until I see you in person.
*sigh* I don't think you're going to like it.
Maybe not, but I neither expect my tastes to be a significant factor in you making such decisions, nor thinks of this as more than a very tiny part of all the fun hosting you here will be. This is not a worry to me.
I tended to get positive reactions about how long it was, rather than reactions of horror about what a terrible condition it was in.
As playing with people's hair goes, absence of split-endiness does at least make me feel more confident about offering to brush it out without being so wary that I will pull it.
Interpret the Halacha correctly
Date: 2009-12-24 05:52 pm (UTC)There is No codified Halacha that a married woman must cover her hair totally and constantly whenever she steps out of her house.
The Halachah has been MISinterpreted. When the Halachah refers to "Covering hair," it does not mean "Cover your hair with hair!" and "constantly for life." The Halachah is that:
A married woman is required to cover her hair when:
(1) she lights the candles to welcome in Shabbat and Yom Tov – lechavod Shabbat ve Yom Tov, and
(2) when she goes to the Synagogue, because that is the place of Kedusha.
The Halacha does not require anything more from married women. This is the true interpretation of the Halacha.
The misinterpretation of the Torah is completely Assur, and a twisting of the Torah.The Torah must remain straight.
Correct interpretation of the Halacha
Date: 2009-12-24 05:55 pm (UTC)In ancient times, a woman would only cover her hair upon entering the Beit HaMikdash. Similarly for the Sotah-otherwise she would not be required to cover her hair ordinarily, day to day.
It is very important for people to know and realise that when a married woman covers her hair with 'Real Hair' the woman is covering herself with 100% Tumah. This is totally against the Torah.
Nothing could be more nonsensical than for a Jewish woman to cover her hair with someone else's hair -who was not Jewish as well! She can never fully be sure that this 'hair' has not come from meitim-despite any guarantee by the seller.This 'real hair' is doubly and in some circumstances, triply Tumah.
1.It will contain the leftover dead hair cells from another person - however much it has been treated, the tumah is still there.
2.This other person (likely to be a non-Jew who most likely was involved in some kind of Avodah Zarah) may have eaten bacon, ham, lobster etc, all of which are totally forbidden as unclean and non-kosher foods in Halacha.
3.If the woman happens to be the wife of a COHEN, then she is bringing her husband into close contact and proximity with meitim and Tumah Every day, and throughout their married life. This is clearly strictly against the Torah.
Interpet the Halachah correctly
Date: 2009-12-24 05:57 pm (UTC)There is nothing more degrading and demeaning to a woman than to make her cover her hair FOR LIFE upon marriage.It is an abhorrent practice.
Any man who makes such a ridiculous demand on his wife, or wife-to-be, should similarly also be required by his wife to wear: long white stockings, even in the summer; a fur streimel; grow a long beard; wear a black hat and coat constantly, and cover his face when he speaks to his wife.Wigs -"la perruque"- were merely a fashion item in the time of Louis XIV-they are not for the Jewish woman!
Rabbi Menachem Schneeersohn tz”l, gave the directive that a married woman must cover her head with a “sheitel.” This needs to be corrected. Rabbi Schneersohn a"h, was a Tzaddik, – but on this – he was, unfortunately not correct.
It is extremely unhealthy and unhygienic for a woman to cover her hair constantly.The hair needs oxygen to breathe.A woman's hair will lose its natural beauty and shine, she may have scalp problems, some of her hair may fall out, she may get headaches, and she may end up cutting it short like a man, when she always wore it long, in order not to have too much discomfort from her hair covering.
Do you think that HaKadosh Baruch Hu commanded this of women? I can assure you that He did not.The commmandments are not meant to cause so much repression and oppression in women.Was Chava created with a wig? Of course not! Did she start wearing a wig? Of course not!
Please Wake Up.
Use the spark of intelligence that Hakadosh Baruch Hu gave to you and blessed you with.
And give your wig back to your husband if you wear one.
Intelligence & Kedusha
Date: 2009-12-24 05:59 pm (UTC)1. To all the women who are wondering about the sources:
We have all been created, "Betselem Elokim" - "in the image of Elokim."
This means that we have been given something called "intelligence." The source is the very first Parsha, Bereishit - 1:27. It is time that people use the spark of intelligence and Kedusha with which Hashem has blessed them.
If your rabbi will tell you to go and jump into the depths of a glacier, presumably you would do that too – and give me a source for it?
“According to the Zohar”, I should also be covering my hair with a wig when I have a bath. “According to the Zohar and the Gemara” and all the sources that have misinterpreted the Halachah, and MIStranslated the Zohar, I should also have been born with a WIG on my head.
These sources and translations are incorrect, as they have deviated very far from the true and correct interpretation, of the Halachah.
Holiness & Emunah of the women
Date: 2009-12-24 06:01 pm (UTC)2.Remember that the Jewish women are very, very holy. They are much more holy than the men. Look at the exemplary behaviour of the women at Har Sinai.
The women never sinned at the Eigel, and so are greatly elevated. Many of the men, unfortunately, ran after a calf made out of a lump of gold – after they had just been given the Torah, and seen the greatest of all Revelations. The women refused to give their gold for the avodah zarah of the men.
The women were greatly elevated after such a wonderful display of Emunah, and they are regarded very highly in Shamayim.
That is why women are not even required to pray. They can pray at home on their own. Nor do women have to make up a minyan. That is how holy the Jewish women are. Men have to pray 3 times a day to remind them of their Creator.
The men are telling the women to put the hair of a non-Jewish woman who may have eaten things like snakes and sharks and alligators, and has worshipped in churches, Buddist temples or Hindu temples : on their own Heads. They had better wake up.
If the men don’t want to wake up to the truth, and the true interpretation of the Halacha, the women will wake them up – whether they like it or not.
3. Many righteous women influenced their husbands for the good at the Chet Haeigel and at the time of Korach.
It was these righteous women who succeeded in bringing their husbands back to their senses.
And because of these great women, the lives of their husbands were saved. Those men therefore turned away from the madness of avodah zarah, and the rebellion of Korach against Hashem's choice of Aharon, as Cohen HaGadol.
Holiness & Emunah of the women (cont.)
Date: 2009-12-24 06:03 pm (UTC)4. Look at the Jewish women in history, and remember how holy they are.
(a) Yaakov, who was the greatest of the Avot, came to marry the 2 daughters of Lavan, Rachel and Leah. Lavan was not exactly a tzaddik. Yaakov went to Lavan, of all people, to marry his 2 daughters – not 1 daughter, but his 2 daughters. Nothing could be greater than that.
(b) Rut, who came from Moav, became the ancestor of David Hamelech.
(c ) Batya, the daughter of Paroh, was given eternal life because she rescued Moshe from the river. No one could have been more evil than Paroh.
(d) Devorah, was a Neviah, and also a Judge.
Women who came from such adverse backgrounds, were able to become builders of Am Yisrael. That is how holy the women are, and how much more elevated they are than the men.
This was never the case with men. It never happened the other way round.
Don't tell me it is holy for me to wear a WIG! Hair over my own hair? This is ridiculous!
Similarly, don’t tell me it is holy for me to plonk a permanent head covering on my head for the rest of my life. This is equally vile.
Please Wake Up.
Use the spark of intelligence that Hakadosh Baruch Hu gave to you and blessed you with.
And give your wig back to your husband if you wear one.
Wake Up
Date: 2009-12-24 06:04 pm (UTC)Whether you wish to accept the correction – which is true – is up to you. Are you going to live by the truth? Are you going to use the spark of intelligence that Hashem gave to you and all women? Or are you going to follow rabbis and dayanim who tell you to wear a wig in a Heat Wave – and you thank them for it as well?
WAKE UP
Date: 2009-12-24 06:06 pm (UTC)WAKE UP!
5. Remember: Not a single “dayan” or “rabbi” has the slightest bit of interest in correcting the situation for the women. Therefore, the women will have to correct the situation................for ..................themselves.
Whether you wish to accept the correction – which is true – is up to you. Are you going to live by the truth? Are you going to use the spark of intelligence that Hashem gave to you and all women? Or are you going to follow rabbis and dayanim who tell you to wear a wig in a Heat Wave – and you thank them for it as well?
Re: WAKE UP
Date: 2010-01-27 02:35 pm (UTC)The next things the ‘rabbis’ will come up with is to tell the woman to wear a CARPET on her head. Not a sheitel AND a hat, but a Carpet.
Or you could go for 5 shaitels on your heads and a rug.
And do you know what the Jewish woman will say to her husband?
‘Yes, husband! I am now wearing a carpet on my head!’
You women must either be extremely thick, or petrified.